wearing the same EXACT makeup for 6 years. Not because I don't try new things, or because I'm not into beauty, but because these products are exceptional. They were all originally recommended to me by pros (makeup artists when I started my on-camera career) and every time I've strayed from them I've come back, crying, makeup smeared down my face. I know that every skin is different, obviously, so I'm not necessarily talking about the shade or color - it's the product itself that is shockingly good regardless of what color of skin it's on. 1. Eye Brow Pencil by Laura Mercier. If Obama knocked on my door and I only had time to apply ONE thing to my face it would be my eyebrows so I could do my special eye-brow move for him. I look strangely sick without those two little lines across my face. I've tried one million different kinds out of sheer desperation (and because I don't really want to spend that much on an eyebrow pencil), but this one has the most natural looking colors. I think that nobody wants to be the lady with the drawn on eyebrows, but some of us have to be. This is a very good one that is easy to apply (it has a good consistency) and a really natural looking color. I buy fair blonde. 2. Orgasm Collection Blush by NARS. The only thing wrong with this blush is its name. When I was 24 I bartended at a bar with a drink called the "G Spot" and I think that SO many more people would have ordered that drink had they not had to say "hey lady, can I get a G-Spot over here?" So disregard that bad name because this is America's blush. It has a huge cult following because it makes every cheek look happy. Even if your skin is a wildly different tone, this blush is for you. It looks crazy hot pink but once its on your face it just looks healthy and alive. Ask any makeup artist in the world (because they all have it in their kit) about this blush and they'll tell you it's amazing. Be careful with "Super Orgasm" because its kinda shiny. 3. Long-Lasting 12 Hour Wear Eyeliner by Sephora. Everyday I put on a tiny line of eyeliner on the top of my lash line, and this one is by far the best. I've tried the really expensive and the really cheap. Most of them are too shiny, smudge too easily, have a brush thats too thick to apply, don't stay on long enough, or don't ever come off. This is just simple, easy, jet black (or brown), and long wearing. Plus it ain't expensive. 4. Luminous Silk Foundation by Giorgio Armani. When I was first introduced to this I was like "foundation? Base? What am I, a lady-mom from 1985?" But then they applied it on my face and my skin looked immediately fresh, flawless, and totally makeup free. It's expensive but worth every penny. I used to drive to Beverly Hills to buy this stuff when I ran out (because it used to only be sold at Saks in store). It has a SLIGHT reflective quality that makes the light bounce off your skin in a really healthy-glow kind of way, and it's really light so you never feel like you are wearing makeup, yet it covers all dark circles (I don't even wear concealer), and flaws. 5. Long Lash Mascara by Laura Mercier. Now this is the only one where I'm like "I like it" but I'm not swearing by it. I'm desperate to find my mascara. Something that doesn't smudge, but is long lasting, easy to take off, and doesn't clump. If it can add length and curl then wonderful. Extra credit if it makes me look like Kim Kardashian circa 2008. But seriously, any amazing ones out there? I've tried fancy (Chanel), and drugstore (Loreal) with the same similar results - not bad, but not the one. Maybe I just have bad short blonde lashes and will never be satisfied because ultimately a mascara will never give me what I want. That could be it. Also I got eyelash extensions recently which was a DISASTER - so expensive and barely made a difference. And then as they grew out I kept picking at them and ripped out so many of my own lashes, so now I have stupid short, choppy lashes. Perhaps mascara isn't my biggest problem. 6. Chubby Stick Intense Moisturizing Lip Color Balm by Clinique. I love these and I have them in MANY colors. They look natural, and give your face a little pop without looking like "OH HEY GIRL CHECK OUT MY LIPSTICK." And you can apply it easily in the car or anywhere without a mirror because you can't really mess it up. Plus it's moisturizing and feels good. And kinda tastes good. I was a kid that ate chapstick, so theres that. SO. Those are mine. I'm loyal and I keep it pretty simple. I don't have boxes of eye shadow for a special occasion (although I do like this one). Every now and again I wear a brighter lip, or for on-camera work I put on lashes, but generally this is what I like on my face and many of those are universally good - it's not the color that I love, its the product. And now, dish. What are you go-to's or your universal cult-following products that we all should know about?
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One of the best sales of the year is coming to an end: The Nordstrom Anniversary Sale. Emily wrote about her picks here when it started! I, on the other hand, tend to be a bit disorganized about sale shopping, so if you also fall into that category, this post is for you. I went through and found 16 truly great pieces that can be worn through the rest of the year (and beyond, of course:)) If you’re in need of either a few more summer pieces or new clothing for the fall, I highly recommend you check out this sale before it’s gone. Ready to “last-minute” shop this Nordstrom Anniversary sale picks with me? Cozy Sweaters In the clothing category, few things are dreamier than a slightly oversized sweater. Both of these are from Free People, which makes sense because all of my favorite knit sweaters are from them. They just have “the slouch” down perfectly. And both of these are well under $100 and come in more colors. Also, should we do a belt roundup? The are EXTREMELY back. If you prefer a more tailored (but still cozy) look, this Madewell sweater is perfect. It’s great to throw on for a cool summer evening or be the perfect pop of pattern under your fall/winter coat. It also comes in blue with white stripes. Cool Jeans If you are someone who maybe wants to try a pair of expensive jeans, a sale like this is such a great way to do that without paying full price. Both of these jeans are by MOTHER, a beloved but not inexpensive brand. I love each of these styles for different reasons. Who doesn’t love a little flare? They just know how to show off those curves. The other wide-leg jeans are simply cool. It gives you that chic, effortless vibe I know I’m always trying to go for:) Easy Blouses Naturally, I had to find some pretty blouses since we are VERY pro flow-y blouse at EHD. If you like some pattern, then look no further than Farm Rio (where the blouse on the left is from). This top, in particular, is the perfect colorway and pattern for all seasons. It’s vibrant without being too over the top. We are big fans. Then that solid blue top is simple, but the detailing in the cuffs and neckline are so pretty. Versatile but special! A Chic, Structured Top But if you want a top that is a little more structured, that can also easily transition to a cooler season (just throw on a thin little long sleeved top under), this vest is ideal for that. It’s from Rails, which Em is a big fan of, and I love that it’s a little longer. A great find…if I do say so myself:) Fun Tees Time to get a little more casual. I’ve recently been leaning more into fun tees. I still love a simple, plain white t-shirt, but sometimes you just want something a little more, amirite? Both of these have that ideal amount of “fun” without being too loud. That’s my ideal mix. A Trendy Lounge Pant Continuing our cool and casual journey, I’m in love with these track pants. How cute is the paper bag waist, or the curved detail on the bottom, or those cool stripes? A great pant for you to run around town and feel put together and comfortable. Transitional Dresses One thing most women love is an easy dress. But especially an easy dress we can wear in that transitional time between seasons. I think both of these dresses fit that bill perfectly! They can be worn with or without stockings and/or boots, and style-wise are appropriate for any season. A Multi Seasonal Skirt Looking for a sweet skirt? How good is this one?! It’s great for any season, has enough detailing to be interesting but not so much that it’s not simple, and it has the cutest matching top. A classic staple for your closet Cute Coats Since fall is approaching, those of you who are on top of things know that it’s smart to buy things like coats and jackets now…if you need any. So if you do, we love a barn jacket. It’s cool, utilitarian, and easy to throw on with most outfits! This one also comes in blue and green. And finally, who can resist a powder blue bouclé coat? It’s such a great pop of soft color that is fun but still feels neutral enough. When I see coats like this, it makes me sad that I don’t live in a place that has a true fall or winter. But if you do, maybe you could be this cool person! Here ends our talk of last-minute Nordstrom Anniversary sale picks. Hope you enjoyed the finds, and if you’re like me, needing a little reminder it was ending, happy shopping.
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Earlier this summer, I stepped into an Abercrombie location at the Christiana Mall in Delaware. This was not the Abercrombie of yore – there were no dark lights, no overpowering scent of cologne, no ear-splitting bass. Nary a shirtless teen in sight! On the contrary: this was the new Abercrombie. The 2025 version. The transformation was made evident when a young tween, dragged in by her early 40s mother and wholly uninterested in every dress in front of her, gestured to me, a 33-year-old woman minding my own business, and said, “This store is for people like her.” “Her,” in this case, means adults. Grown-ups. (The horror!!!!) We grew up, and Abercrombie grew up with us. Gone are the layering tanks, the popped collars, the micro-shorts, the air of exclusivity. Instead, you’ll find your local Abercrombie stocked with modest midi-length dresses, comfortable jeans, athleisure with built-in bras, and easy throw-on-and-go basics at wallet-friendly prices. WHO KNEW?! Well, I did – and that’s why I forced the team to try on and review Abercrombie’s Viral Best Selling Dress, the Emerson collection. I’m convinced that this style looks good on everyone (you can be the judge below!) and it’s offered in a variety of shapes, cuts, lengths, and patterns, meaning that there is an Emerson for every body. (I mean that literally, too – sizing runs from 000-24 and regular, petite, and tall lengths are offered. They’re not perfect, but Abercrombie is far more inclusive than other major brands out there today.) ANYWAY – you ready to see what these grown-up adults think of their new dresses? Emily Dress Size: Small/Regular My Height: 5’4″ Thoughts: When things go viral, I’m curious for sure – is it really that good? Would it work on my body? Since I have larger ladies and a short torso, I really thought that the fitted bodice would crawl up and make me look pregnant (true story for all the Reformation dresses designed like this), but I was so pleasantly surprised by the structure of this dress! I really love it (with one caveat). It’s comfortable, drapes really well, obviously the sleeves are flattering, and the bodice slimming and just so easy to wear (shout out to the alllllll the various patterns). My only issue is that I only have one bra that has wide enough straps and a low enough back to not be seen. I actually think it’s best to not wear a bra with this dress, but I’m not terribly comfortable doing that. The square neck is very wide, and it’s not that the back is super low it’s that my supportive bras just have a thicker strap that does ride up higher. I bought these cakes, but they didn’t arrive in time. So I’m keeping this dress (I bought it in the poplin, too, but prefer the linen, so I returned that one). I know we are in mid-July, so buying a linen midi dress might feel “end of season,” but the sale price of this is an incredible deal (and it’s too hot to buy fall right now!). I’m sure the other ladies will say this, but if you are in between sizes, size down – I’m in between small and medium in most things right now (I really wish the world would get itself together and agree on a universal sizing), and bought a small, which fits great. I was prepared to say “cute dress, not for me” but I’m excited to announce that even if you are apple shaped, with a bigger bosom, this dress is very flattering and makes me feel good (just beware of the bra needs). Gretchen Dress Size: Large/Tall My Height: 5’9″ Thoughts: Consider me a fan of Abercrombie’s resurgence! Gone are the days of me rocking a moose-embroidered, long-sleeved babydoll top to 3rd period (thankfully). Now, I’m wearing puffy sleeves and flowy skirts to wine country, baby! We’ve graduated, and I like it. Especially this style of dress; big puffy sleeves, a square neckline, and a tiered skirt that hits just right at the waist. I was smitten with this cute wine and cheese pattern on the fabric, which is admittedly a little too on the nose to wear wine tasting (what I’m doing in this picture), BUT so many strangers (okay, two) came up to me and told me they loved the dress! So I consider that a win and have plans to wear this piece other places, too. I wasn’t totally sure about the sizing, so I tested a variety, and really I just wish they sold a medium-and-a-half. The medium fit me super well in the waist/ribs, but squished the girls down in a weird way. The large fit best in the chest but is looser than I would like in the waist. I went with the large tall (I’m 5’9″) over a regular because I think a longer midi skirt looks better on me. Overall, I’m pretty pleased with this dress and think the quality is great, especially for the price point. Jess Dress Size: Small/Petite My Height: 5’4″ Thoughts: What I will say first is that it is an extremely cute dress that doesn’t require my size C-cup breasts to wear a bra, and since it doesn’t have a fitted skirt, I can wear whatever style underwear my heart could desire (granny, duh). The pattern is so sweet, it’s lined, and overall, the quality feels so good. I chose a petite length since it’s a “mini” dress (though, I don’t think it’s all that mini) and was afraid the regular would have hit me in an awkward spot. Oh, and it was a bit of thing to get on because it’s a pullover, but once you’re in, it’s so comfortable and you feel secure! But as truly cute as it is and think it looks on me, it’s just not my style. I sort of figured as much when this style was chosen, but as my mother always told me, “Just try it on, you never you and you might be surprised.” However, since I know I just wouldn’t wear it enough, I’m going to return it. This is a dress that’s much more “Jess”:) Caitlin Dress Size: Large/Regular My Height: 5’8″ Thoughts: I’ve been screaming about Abercrombie for TWO WHOLE YEARS, and it’s about time my team started paying attention!!! The Emerson line is a total breeze to wear – it’s the epitome of the “throw on and go” dress to me. Everyone looks good in it, they’re appropriate for nearly every occasion (church! Antiquing! Farmer’s market! Parent/teacher conference! Thanksgiving dinner!), and honestly…they’re pretty fun and princess-y to wear. I love the pockets, I love that my 36Fs fit inside (I’m bra-less here, with room leftover!), and I love the variety of cuts and patterns. If none of the current pieces are doing it for you, never fear: they drop new pieces every season. And while we’re talking Abercrombie: here’s the Mila dress I’ve been yappin’ about all summer! ICYMI, I’ve been on a “shop small or not at all” kick in 2025…and it was going great, until I tried this dress on. It’s simultaneously structured-yet-breezy, supportive enough up top that I can still go bra-free (praise be!!!), and I ADORE the cut of the straps – it covers up my armpit folds, or lumps, or whatever those weird pieces of skin between my boob and my armpit are called. I wear this one at least once a week – it’s just SO easy and flattering. If the Emerson cut isn’t doing it for you, give the rest of the dresses a look – they have some great basics at rock-bottom prices. Mallory Dress Size: Small/Regular My Height: 5’7″ Thoughts: Imagine how confused I was when I opened up this blog post in the backend and saw everyone’s Abercrombie dress that did NOT look like the one I ordered!! Caitlin raved about this dress, which is how we came up with the idea to do an Abercrombie dress try-on, so I thought we were going with that one, but JOKES ON ME!! I don’t know what happened. But this is what I ordered and I LOVE IT, so I’m gonna review it anyway (lol this is the funniest thing that’s ever happened to me on the blog). Let’s get into it, though. This dress comes in a few different simple colors, and this really fun pattern too. The quality is shockingly good – there’s a bodice that’s super flattering but isn’t tight and uncomfortable (I don’t know how they do it). I was super impressed with the fit (I got a small). But wait – I saved the best part for last – IT HAS POCKETS! I’ll be wearing this all summer. Thanks, bye! Marlee Dress Size: Small/Regular My Height: 5’8″ Thoughts: I am not a huge fan of puffy sleeves on myself, and I don’t really wear midi or maxi dresses casually, so I was unsure about reviewing this line when the team first proposed it (didn’t feel super me) – but I was happy to see the Emerson Cap Sleeve Mini Dress as an option in the line! I ordered a Size S in the black (regular height). My biggest takeaway is WHY am I not wearing square necklines ALLLL the time? It’s so cute – combined with the little cap sleeves, I ended up liking this dress much more than I thought I would. From a sizing standpoint, it felt pretty true to size, and I liked that the back area where the zipper has ruching, so it’s pretty stretchy. Lengthwise, it hit at a good point on my legs but is on the longer side for a mini dress – I do have a shorter torso, but if you’re worried about the length, I think it’s totally fine/appropriate. I went braless and felt totally fine, but if you need more support or feel most comfortable wearing a bra, I do think you would have to go strapless (unless you don’t mind a little peekaboo strap) – the neckline did go basically all the way to my armpit. Overall, I was pleasantly surprised by this item, and I think it will be a great, simple staple to have in my closet! There you go! Let us know what you think. Do you like the kinds of reviews? Are you going to try an Abercrombie dress now? Have a great weekend, pals!
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Now that we are about a month into summer, Marlee posed the question the other day, “What are everyone’s summer staples?” A big gab sesh started so naturally, we then thought that it was a pretty great blog post idea. So here we are! And much like a capsule wardrobe, it’s helpful to really pinpoint what types of pieces we gravitate towards and can wear with what we already own. It makes us better buyers and happier in the long run. No more “I’m sure I’ll find a place to wear this” and then never do. Each of us on the team has our own little style variations, so hopefully you’ll find some good inspo and/or pieces that will help you beat the heat. First up, our fearless leader… Emily Overall Summer Style: I’m living casually per usual, but dialing in things that make me feel cute enough around town. Great Flats – I’m still loving the Dolce Vita mesh leopard ballet flats – they strangely go with everything and are super flexible (not stiff, and therefore comfortable). The bright blue Nike sneakers are solid, and my new pointy clear jellies are strangely flattering and comfortable, and still loving these brown sandals from Anthropologie. Jean Shorts (Multiple Lengths!) – We are all going baggier than we used to, and I’m still loving these Agolde shorties and the longer Gap Bermudas (I have in both white and light denim). Blousy Tops – I really like the new one from Nordstroms I’m wearing in the opening shot. But my go-tos tend to be either Doen or Love Tomas (Emerson Fry). The delicate cotton is so breathable, and they are just so pretty and yet casual. Head Scarves – I can not stop wearing scarves on my head, either as a triangle or a headband. Alex Mill, Madewell, and Urban Outfitters all have great ones. This one is super cute. Aviator Sunglasses – I go mostly for knockoffs, but my last pair (Fetch) was from Consign Couture in Multnomah Village, where I sell a lot of my clothes, and I love them. These are great too! Pearls – I like a light strand around my neck at all times – pops just the right way. Patterned Dress – I’m sad my Evereve dress is sold out (snag it if it comes back), but this new Madewell one is FANTASTIC. Such a great drape, comfortable and versatile (and the pattern makes it so forgiving). Baseball Hat – This hat (in the opener photo), from Anthro, is my new absolute favorite. It’s a trucker hat with mesh backing and is so cute (despite being a fake souvenir hat, which I think is hilarious – but it’s such a good hat that I ignore it). Jess Overall Summer Style: Oversized Button Up – This has been a staple for me for many summers. What’s easier than throwing on an oversized button-up with some shorts, over a swimsuit, as a nighttime extra layer? It’s so versatile and effortless. Now, I got my first Frank & Eileen button-up as a surprise for Christmas, and it has been in heavy rotation ever since. It’s pretty perfect. Of course, that one is not all that budget-friendly, so here’s a great alternative for a fraction of the price. Activewear Shorts – I’m new to the love of “activewear” pull-on shorts that Emily and likely many of you have been on for a minute. Remember this post Em wrote a few years ago? Well, I’m finally here and I am happy as a clam. It started with my new bright green Lululemon shorts and soon expanded. I love throwing those on with my Frank & Eileen button-up with my ballet jelly flats. It’s easy, casual, and a little fun. The other pair I bought is super similar to these (except these are a little less “activewear” and more “cute summer shorts”). Jean Shorts – A jean short is a staple for many of us, so no shocker here. But to get specific, like Gretchen, I am a sucker for these Agolde Parker shorts. They are just the perfect fit, the perfect wash, and regardless of what my waistline has been (I’ve fluctuated a few sizes over the past few years), I’ve always felt confident in them. They do have a longer version if that’s more your preference. And speaking of longer jean shorts, these will also be in HEAVY rotation this summer and beyond. Baseball Hat -Any ole regular baseball hat will do, but what I keep grabbing are my “local merch” ones. I got a great one when I was in Oaxaca from a cafe called Onnno that just says “Sándwich”. It’s fun, silly, and reminds me of my incredible trip with my friends. But there are also places like Altadena Beverage & Market that were thankfully able to reopen after the fire. They are selling these “Altadena” baseball hats, where 100% of the proceeds are going to fire victims. Just a small way to feel a little more connected to our communities and the businesses that we want to uplift. (Also, if you live close enough, Altadena Beverage & Market has the most incredible wine selection, a vast non-alcoholic spread, and a bunch of other delicious goodies and gifts.) Jelly Ballet Flats – The true winner of the summer! I want to wear these shoes EVERYWHERE. I bought them in clear after seeing our photographer, Kaitlin, wear them on our retreat, and I haven’t looked back. They go with everything, are so easy to slip on, and are fun but cool at the same time. Ok, I’ve talked myself into it, and I need to get the red ones now. Fun Tee – What can I say? I love a fun tee! I prefer either pretty fitted or fairly oversized. This “oranges” one is fitted and so cute (and those oranges sit ABOVE your boobs, in case you were wondering:))! I’ve gotten a ton of compliments on it. I know it’s not cheap, but it’s made from 100% deadstock cotton in Los Angeles by a women-run brand and sizes up to 3x. Happy to support these kinds of companies when I can. Honorable Mention – A flowy dress you can dress up-ish or down. This is a no-brainer, but I don’t own any that I can link up, but it had to be said in case you see me in the street in a flowy dress and think, “but that wasn’t on her summer staples list?!” ;) Caitlin Overall Summer Style: THE Sunglasses – I know the all the cool kids are doing tiny sunglasses, but I DON’T CARE. Wayfarers are classic for a reason! They’re universally flattering (especially if you have a big ol’ round face, like I do), polarized for extra protection, and they never get caught in my hair. Hair Clip – You know that whole “reject modernity, embrace tradition” meme? Well, reject your modern plastic claw clip and embrace the vintage slide barrette!!! This $9 fish-shaped hair stick has been my most-used purchase of 2025 – it’s the simplest way to elevate your look with absolutely no effort. (My greasy 3-day hair has never looked more polished.) Fun Sandals – Have I been sharing these fresh flip-flop alternatives incessantly for the last several weeks? Yes. Do I have any plans on stopping? NO. My pair gets better and better with wear – the leather footbeds have now molded to my feet, they’re divine for long walks, and they’ve been garnering so many compliments from cool women on the street!! I can’t believe they’re under $70 – I would have happily paid double that price because I love them so much. Thigh Saver – I buy a few Thigh Rescue minis every year and scatter them amongst my tote bags, suitcases, and purses. I know some women like to wear shorts to prevent chafing, but I run hot and can’t handle extra layers in the summer – Thigh Rescue keeps me comfortable and pain-free whenever I throw on a dress or a pair of shorts. (PS. I’ve been relying on it since 2019, so this recommendation comes with lots of experience!) Pull-On Linen Pants – Take it from someone whose ancient apartment lacks insulation and regularly tops 95 degrees: these linen pants are a dream to wear on extra-hot days. Gap really does a great job here – the 3 pairs I grabbed last summer have held up beautifully over countless wash and dry cycles. Skort Dress – I bought my first skort dress in 2023, and I’ll never go back. It’s breezy, it’s simple, you can go bra-less (!!!,) and it’ll keep you cool when it counts most. (Seriously – this is what I wore to explore the blistering Australian outback.) Dress her up for date night! Dress her down for the beach! Wear her in the middle of a desert! Anything goes! This dress gets perfect marks from me – it’s likely the most versatile piece I own. AD Arlyn Overall Summer Style: Classic Huaraches – Who am I kidding? As a SoCal resident, I wear these year-round, but they are, of course, most appropriate for summer. I’ve had my Nisolo’s Huarache Sandles in Almond since we did a sponsored post with them like…six years ago? They are my go-to shoe for basically everything. I wear them with dresses, shorts, jeans, even leggings to run out to the store. Because they are so good quality, they’re still kicking after what is likely 50,000 miles on them. They can’t be beat, seriously. Short-Sleeve Linen Shirt – Thus begins my “broken record” summer fashion list, because basically all I wear from May until November is some variation of a button down camp shirt. I’ll admit I do not have this *exact* shirt from Quince, but I have many just like it I bought a while back and wear on rotation. The price ($35) on these is at least half if not more of the camp shirts I used to get at Madewell. They are so easy to throw on, don’t stick to my body when we’re in heatwave territory, and look great with basically everything and on everyone. Boyfriend Button Down – I’ve had maybe four (?!?) of these boyfriend button down shirts from Old Navy over the last five or so years, and the linen one I have is on regular rotation now. I tend to grab a few during one of their many 50% off sales and just wear them into the ground. The best part about their loose fit is that you basically don’t even feel them touch your body, which is high on my priority list for summer attire. They are very roomy, so I’d size down if you don’t want to look like you’re wearing a parachute (though you do do!). Barely There Cotton Blouse – Annnnd more button downs. I ended up at Kohl’s about a month or two ago hunting down the only Winnie the Pooh quilt I could find for my daughter’s upcoming big girl bed (at her request), and found this striped number which I’ve wear over and over again since I scooped it up. It weighs practically NOTHING, which ranks as #2 on that priority summer attire list I just mentioned above. Fair warning: the buttons are spaced further apart them I’m used to, but even with my large chest, it’s totally fine as long as you’re in the right size (I got a large). Flowy Sun Dress – I have to take a break from all those buttons at some point, right? New to my wardrobe is this 100% cotton shell-print dress from a store called City Chic that sells sizes 12 – 24. I’ve never bought from them before but I was pleased with the quality and fit of this one I got on sale for about $50. In fact, the fit works so well on me that I just might venture out into the world…ready for it…sleeveless! ::Gasp:: (I am being serious, as someone who has hidden their arms away for decades.) Oh, and don’t even THINK of forgetting some thigh protection because giant chafing-induced inner thigh welts are no good for anyone. I love these cooling short from ThighSociety because they don’t squeeze you like shapewear, which is inconceivable on a 90-degree day. They come in three lengths (5″, 7″, 9″) and sizes from XS to 6x. Chambray Button Down – Back to my regularly scheduled button down programming, this time with some chambray. I’ve bought this one from Loft twice already (and honestly, I should just go ahead and get a third one while it’s on sale right now because I wear it THAT much). I find some chambray to be either too heavy, too structured or too wispy, but this one is just right. The sides are a little higher than the front and back which results in more movement for any Hippy Helens out there (I just made that up, not sure it’s working but I’ll let it marinate). Mallory Overall Summer Style: Jean Shorts – I reach for these jean shorts on the weekly (if not daily) during the summer. I love these so much, I snagged them in two different colors (also note I cut them to make them a bit shorter). They’re so roomy and not too tight on the thighs, but they fit perfectly at the waist (which has always been hard for me to find). Lightweight Knit Shirts – I am a knit shirt lover, and that’s because they’re breezy and easy to walk around town in without sweating uncontrollably. I have a few different ones in my rotation, but currently I’m rocking this black and white one with the prettiest details and this affordable one from H&M (that has matching shorts!) Statement Vacation-y Dress – I go to Palm Springs a lot, and when I do, I generally wear something from Farm Rio, so in the summers, if I have any fun vacations or getaways planned, I like to grab something fun, flowy, and statement-y from them. This year, I went to Hawaii (and truly had the vacation of a lifetime!!), so I snagged this dress, which I actually can’t stop wearing. It’s great for a fun brunch or resorty dinner, and I absolutely love how farm rio dresses can be casual or fancy depending on how you style them. Button Down – I’ve always loved a button down (especially for bathing suit cover-ups!!) I have a blue pinstripe, a red pinstripe, and an electric blue color that I rotate between constantly throughout the summer. I usually buy mine secondhand at crossroads (they always have great options!) and bonus, you can always shop men’s shirts and they’re sometimes cheaper…but for an online resource that’s affordable, this one from Old Navy looks exactly like the one I have! Gretchen Overall Summer Style: Jean Short – I reach for these shorts so often I may as well sleep in them. Yes, they are annoyingly expensive, but they’ve truly become my summer staple pair and I wear them SO OFTEN I’ve far surpassed the cost per wear. They are the perfect length, perfect distress, hug my butt just right and have a great button fly. A size 31 fits me just right! Gauze Pants – I’ve been wearing these perfect pants since LAST summer and they have remained my go-to breezy pant option. And actually, I do wear these to bed from time to time. They are so soft and flowy and the gauze-y texture just hangs so nicely. They wash up really well and I think they get better the more you wear them. LL Bean has a variety of matching “Cloud Gauze” tops to make it a cute set as well! And I just saw that they also offer the pants in a really great, bright French Blue, and mysteriously, they’ve just found their way into my cart (I like a size large and am normally about a 12 in pants). Canvas Cap – Nine times out of ten you will catch me wearing a baseball or trucker hat. I don’t know what it is about them but they seem to have a chokehold on me. Especially in the summer. Whether they’re working overtime to disguise a sweaty/bad hair day or just functioning to block out the sun, these Carhartt Canvas caps are ones I reach for all the time. They are simple, comfy, affordable, durable, easy to adjust–I could go on. I have them in a few different colors and love them all. Sunglasses – I was gifted a pair of these polarized Ray Ban Wayfarers and just absolutely love them. Hard to go wrong with a classic! While I could never justify spending hundreds of dollars on say a Gucci pair of sunglasses or something similar, I would spend the money on these if I had to. They’re nice and heavy–great quality–and the polarized lenses are just the best. I grab for these every single day! Sandals – I just bought these and like I predicted, am already wearing them to DEATH. I am a Birks-since-birth kind of gal because my dad was a big fan of them growing up. Like him, once I find a comfortable (and cute) shoe to wear, it becomes a daily staple. I really love the bigger buckle on these and that it’s not a shiny gold. The light leather goes with everything and I can wear them allllll day long without comfortability complaints. I’m a size 9.5 typically and the 40 is my preferred Birks size. Bikini Top – This bikini top isn’t anything too special, but it IS inexpensive and also very cute! Comes in a lot of cute colors and patterns. I love wearing it with jean shorts and an open button-up in the summertime. Obviously great to wear in the water too! Lately, I’ve been tying the top so the straps each connect/tie to the back strap, rather than around my neck, and I love how it looks–slightly more comfy for the girls too. Marlee Overall Summer Style: Sunglasses – I got these sunglasses in the spring and have not worn a different pair since. I’ve always loved Madewell sunglasses, but I think that the quality of them has gone up recently because these feel way less glare-y than pairs I’ve had from them in the past. I love the shape of these – they’re a smaller shape but not too small, wide enough to not feel like you’re wearing glasses made for a toddler! Turkish Towels – I am deeply passionate about swimming as often as possible in the summer, which usually means packing a bag for a Sunday swim, then not unpacking it and just bringing the same bag for a quick river dip on a Monday after work. These towels are my favorite for these swims because they’re incredibly lightweight and they dry FAST. AKA no moldy wet towels in my bag:) They’re also just so fun and come in an infinite amount of colors. Leave In Conditioner – This is also a bag essential – whenever I have wet river hair, I love to spray a few spritzes of this on my hair as it air dries. It smells so so yummy and is a super nice, lighter product that enhances my curls and reduces frizz. Highly recommend for anyone, but especially if you have wavier fine hair. It doesn’t weigh it down like other leave-ins. Body Lotion – This is my favorite favorite summer lotion that I’ve been using for as long as I can remember. It’s such a yummy classic coconut scent and is super lightweight and “watery,” so it’s incredibly easy to layer and absorb. There’s no better feeling than showing after a day in the sun and then putting this lotion on with clean pajamas:) Summer Shoes – These are some of my favorite summer shoes for river days (and just walking around). I have them in white, but they come in SO many fun colors. I feel like they stay on better than flip flops, which is great for trekking down to a swim spot. They’re also waterproof, so you can take them in the water or just hose them off if they get dirty. I’ve had the same pair for at least the last 6 years, and they’re still in amazing condition. Summer Dress – My favorite summer dress is one that I’ve had for 4+ years, so it’s sadly not available – but my love for it is less about the specific dress and more about the shape + vibe. Enter shift dresses! Especially as a swim cover-up. I love how lightweight and breezy they are, and even though it’s so simple and has no shape to it, it screams “berry picking and then getting slurpees after,” which is incredibly specific but exactly what I want my summers to feel like. This one is the most similar to mine (love the ties), but I also LOVE this Doen x Gap dress and this one. Also, this – ah, there’s so many! Hope this was fun and made you think more about your staples. Here’s to a happy and cool summer. Love you, mean it.
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Itried to sneak into the Nordstroms Anniversary sale before I was allowed to try things on to show you, but it was a mad house and I didn’t have a card (and then ran into The Daily Tay – I HAD NO IDEA SHE LIVED IN THE PNW!!) and got distracted. So I looked for stuff on sale, but honestly, what I was into was the expensive stuff that was now just less expensive, so I didn’t buy anything on sale. Instead, opting for some pretty dang cute, and mostly affordable pieces. Here are a few if you want to see (and then I rounded up some of the sale items I really liked, too). Also, you are about to see a lot of scarves on my head, it’s a thing for me right now… This dress is a solid 9/10. It’s so comfortable, so drapey, so easy to wear – and for virtually every occasion (work, happy hour, grocery shopping, date night, even a walk and chat – just so easy). It has pockets and a loose waist that is still flattering because the sleeves are big. It’s a cute pattern, but not too loud. My only issue with it is that you need a bra that has straps that are pretty wide (or don’t mind showing off your bra strap – but maybe it’s a sign for me to get some new bras, good lord I go a LOOOONNNG time one the same three super supportive but not terribly beautiful bras). They didn’t have my size in stock, so I bought a size 6, but I think if I had sized down, it would have fit in an unflattering way because my boobs would have pulled up the waist, and it might have hugged or poofed in the wrong places. I think if you are smaller on top, then order your size, but for me, sizing up really worked here as it just drapes really nicely. It’s such an incredibly easy dress to wear, and I hope they make it in a lot of other subtle patterns. This is a “new to me” look that I know is trendy (and admittedly cute). A linen set that is pretty affordable (skirt is $55 and top is $75, sold separately). As you know, I’m stupidly self-conscious about my arms/shoulders, so you may have never seen me in a tank top, but this cut (where it comes really close to the armpits) felt more flattering than most, de-emphasizing the areas that I have dumb sensitivities to. Preppy and cute, fun to wear, and comes in black and white, too. I can’t tell if I really will wear this enough to warrant keeping it, but if I had a job where I needed to be in an office or meetings with clients, this is perfect in the summer. The linen is thick, but not wrinkly AT ALL, and the skirt is flattering on its own. I’m wearing a small in both. OBSESSED with these jellies. They are so flattering (elongates my feet and legs) and extremely comfortable (feels like I’m wearing nothing). SIZE UP – I’m a solid size 7 shoe, but wearing an 8 here and can’t imagine going any smaller. Ok, I was on the fence about keeping this (again, unsure I would wear enough to warrant adding it to my already full closet), but after seeing these photos, I’m pretty dang into the outfit. The top is super drapey and I felt flattering for how easy it is to wear, the shorts are tailored but still comfortable. I should have shown you the back because it is more open, which is my only issue. I asked my team what I was supposed to do here, and they said not to wear a bra and try those bra “cakes” instead. So now I want to do a roundup/review of bra “cakes” for larger ladies (and yet, how would we show them on the internet???). Again, the jellies are rad and I think the scarf and aviators are really working with the outfit, if I do say so myself (also trying to not damage my hair as much by styling it so thus the head scarves). This blouse is a solid 10/10 if you don’t mind showing a bit of bra in the middle of the ties. For $65, I think it has a lot of detail (think Doen, but 1/10th the price) and is extremely easy to wear, without being too “pirate-y,” i.e., too much fabric. The longer Bermuda shorts were all I saw in New York (can’t say they are the most flattering – I’m a short-short lady, but I’m embracing the trend and starting to love them, although I love my Gap ones just as much as they are almost 1/3 the price). I think the trend with the bigger Bermuda shorts you are supposed to wear a tiny top (crop, tank, or square neck) and either flip flops, ballet flats, or Hokas, FYI. I don’t know – I want to write a whole post about how fashion is wack right now (New York was extremely uninspiring, TBH. I don’t know what is happening, but I felt like a tourist by just wearing an outfit.) This looks boring, but these are two excellent staples. I was looking for a mid-weight cardigan to layer. Most are either too thin (won’t layer easily over my tops, which are admittedly voluminous) or too thick (too hot). This one is fantastic on its own, but has enough structure, weight, and room to layer on top. SIZE UP if you want to layer (I’m wearing a medium). The shorts are pull-on, drawstring, patterned, and perfect for all your daytime occasions (I think you could even pair them with a t-shirt and blazer for casual Friday office days since they read trouser shorts, not pajamas). I’m wearing a medium, FYI. A cute scarf-style shirt that has a great structure (not flowy, more A-line) with a nice waistline that doesn’t cut in but stays put. I’m wearing a small. Then shout out to Emerson Fry for sending me that cute shirt. I dressed the skirt down with that graphic T, denim around my waist, and classic nude Havianas (which are having a moment, again – flip flops are just everywhere right now). So that’s what I picked up in store and below are the pieces I really want from the actual sale:)
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As a “romper” expert, I have had a lot over the years and liked many for different reasons. But once I bought my first Pistola, it quickly became the one I reached for. It’s flattering, while being roomy. Cute while having big pockets for a phone, etc. For us, our job being relatively physical, so having an easy-to-move-in “outfit” that is cool in the summer, always comfortable, and cute (for camera) is a Venn diagram miracle. I find myself telling any stranger who flatters me in it that it’s the best comfortable romper on the market, so I figured I’d see if my team agrees. So today you’ll see their new summer line on a few bodies (yes, I reached out and they sent them to me and my team with no obligation to say anything at all, let alone something positive). Here is what we think: Emily Size: Small (I’m between 4-6 (so I guess a 5, lol) Height: 5’4″ with a short-ish torso True to Size?: I love how it fits and wouldn’t want smaller or bigger, but admittedly I want it to not be tight AT ALL. No body-con rompers for me, thank you. Size down if you are in between, like me. Official Review: MASSIVE fan. They have some structure while being lightweight (some other brands that are canvas are great, but too hot for most months). The cotton is thin enough to be cool, but thick enough not to be cheap poplin that doesn’t keep its shape. It gives more “utilitarian,” which I also want (and is the whole point). The huge pockets are fantastic for work or just for weekend cleaning, so I can keep my phone/podcast on my person as I run around the house. The red one – I’ve worn the red one almost every day since I got it – oh, and it washes great, too. I don’t need to steam it, and they don’t wrinkle up in an annoying way. I have the denim version that drapes/falls really well, too. The green one – This one is new to me and I really like it for a dressier version (great for summer office) but l’ll likely wear it less since it does cinch at the waist (I might have sensory issues, guys!). But it’s really flattering and cute for a slightly dressier/less utilitarian vibe. Jess Size: Small Height: 5’4″ True to Size?: I think so but only if you like a looser fit, otherwise consider sizing down. Official Review: Needless to say, I was so so excited to get a Pistola romper. Em has been wearing them for a while now, and every time I think how cute they are. When I first put it on, I immediately felt the quality and loved all the details. But after staring at myself for a minute, I was afraid it might be slightly too big. I even panic messaged Caitlin, who was the one in contact with Pistola, that I might need to swap. I then adjusted the waist to cinch it in, and I was so much happier! As you can see, I went vintage shopping (with Caitlin) and felt great the whole day…although we both forgot to get any good front shots of me in it in the wild, lol. I will mention two things that I think are worth considering. I think the top is a little roomy, in general. Great for maybe tall, longer-torsoed, or bustier people (plus, I do think it’s also just the look). However, with the adjustable waist, it fixes that problem for us shorties. But if you like a more fitted look, I would size down (maybe even 2 sizes). Also, there are snaps AND buttons going down the front! Which is great because you are secure. I just wouldn’t wait too long to go to the bathroom because it’s a 2-step “undoing” process:) Overall, I really love it and will absolutely be wearing it all summer. Recommend! Arlyn Size: Extra-Large Height: 5’3″ True to Size?: Totally. I followed the measurements on the online sizing guide, which led me to an XL, which is typically what I am with pieces like this. (For reference, I waver between a large and XL in tops because I’m very busty, and wear XL bottoms or anywhere between a 14 or 16, depending on the brand.) Official Review: I have a complicated relationship with rompers in general. I always love them on other people, but because I’m petite, on the rounder side, and, again, chesty, it’s very hard for me to ever get a comfortable fit. Either the crotch is too low and rubs in weird places, the shorts ride up, the top is too small for dem boobies, or it has way too much fabric everywhere for the size I need. BUT, I have to say, I did think this was a good fit. However, as Jess mentioned, my goodness, you’re caged up in this thing! There’s an internal layer of snaps and a top layer of buttons. Secure? Yes. Overkill? Perhaps. The fabric is thick and sturdy, so it’ll likely wash really well and last a long time, but it does feel a bit stiff at first, FYI. I may need to break it in a bit to feel more comfortable, but it sure is cute. Caitlin Size: Large Height: 5’8″ True to Size?: True to their size chart? Yes. True to my understanding of my size? No! I almost grabbed an XL here – it’s my go-to size when ordering from any new brand – and am so glad I checked the chart before adding to cart. (I technically could have fit into a medium!) I have a super long torso and normally need to size up, so I was pleasantly surprised by how comfy and roomy the large fits me. Official Review: I LOVE THIS ROMPER. (I love it so much that when it was delivered at my house, I took to Slack and proclaimed “just got my romper and I LOVE IT,” followed by “taking all my restraint not to throw it in the link up this week lol.”) I love that it’s loose and breezy around the legs, a little more formal up top, and that I can tie it as tight or as loose as I’d like. It’s a total blank canvas – easy to dress up, easy to dress down – and it’s one of those rare pieces of clothing that you could wear both to the grocery store and to like, any conservative church on your summer European vacation travels. The fabric is weighty and luxe – I’m just blown away by the quality. Pistola, I see you!!! You have a new fan :) (PS. I was shocked to read the other gals’ commentary on the buttons. This one just hag regular ol’ buttons. I can pee without issue!) Mallory Size: Small Height: 5’7″ True to Size?: Yes! Official Review: This is a solid piece – the quality is great and the fabric is thick. The fit definitely works for a longer torso because the crotch is a bit lower. It also has double-layered buttons so skin doesn’t peek through when you sit down, which I think is a really smart design (but know it will take you a bit to take off during bathroom trips). I also really love the white version of this romper, which I was initially nervous about getting (and ultimately went with the black) because I thought it might be see-through. But now that I know how thick and high quality the material is on the black one, I think the white would be SUPER cute and easy to style too:) Gretchen Size: Large, fits me perfectly Height: 5’9″ True to Size?: I am normally a size L/XL and debated about ordering a size up, but I am super glad I didn’t. While I’d say this romper is true to size, make sure to check your measurements with theirs. Mine lined up best with a size large. But when I first tried the romper on, I was a bit worried it was maybe too loose, wondering if I could’ve maybe squeezed into a medium. I wasn’t totally swimming in it, but I’d wanted it to feel just a tad more fitted in places. HOWEVER, mine now fits perfectly after a wash. The group shot with Marlee, Em, and me was taken pre-wash, and my selfie is the romper straight out of a cycle. I don’t feel like it necessarily shrank per se, but just that it tightened up in all the places I wanted it to, while still feeling plenty comfortable and roomy. Added bonus–these are a breeze to wash! Official Review: I’m absolutely in love with this romper and heading back to buy it in another color–I’m serious. I love just how unbelievably easy, cute, and comfortable it is. Like, it’s so simple to throw on and run around in–a full outfit in one–but more than that, I just look so dang cute and put together wearing it (that, yes, it makes me want to toot my own horn!). I love what the zip front does style-wise, but it also makes it very quick to slip in and out of (for bathroom breaks, etc). The waist tie situation is great to cinch you in, and the material is casual, breathable, and hangs so nicely. I also like that you can roll and snap the sleeves up or leave them down. I’m partial to the latter. This piece is very much “ME” and I know I’ll be reaching for it all summer long–heck, I’m wearing it as I type this. I’ll be watching Pistola closely to see if they release it in more colors! Marlee Size: Small Height: 5’8″ True to Size?: Yes! Official Review: I am not typically a romper girl, but I was pleasantly surprised about this one – I feel like my biggest issue with rompers is typically the fact that they “ride up” if you know what I mean… but this one, I did not have to worry about! The length of the shorts was great and was roomy enough in the leg that I didn’t feel constricted, and long enough that I didn’t feel “exposed” (but not too long that it’s an awkward length). The shorts part also has a little cuff with a button holding it in place, so if you wanted them to be longer, there’s some flexibility there. I really like the buttons on the side – it fits true to size in the waist and was perfectly roomy, but if you wanted it to be a little more snatched, you have the option to take it in a little bit. I love the look of the pockets and the utilitarian vibe, but the highlight for me was how soft the fabric was. It’s so cute with sneakers for a casual look, but I think the way I’ll wear this the most is dressed up with some tall boots and a cute purse:) I think it’s fair to say that we all very much approve of these very cute rompers. So if you are in the market, we recommend Pistola hard:)
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Well, here we are again – another summer where we (the collective WE) shop online for swimsuits, only to be confronted with an increasing lack of body inclusivity, and then hope that our real and unphotoshopped bodies will look good in said suits. I’ve sadly never been immune to body dysmorphia, but a good, flattering suit can make your summer less stressful and fill you with more confidence. And summer should be fun:) So I take one for the team almost every year and shop, try on, shoot, and review my non-photoshopped (but heavily self-tanned, lol) body for the internet. I really try to find the best supportive swimsuits on the market. You’ll see each suit from the front and back (good god), and I’ll break down the level of bust support, cheek coverage, and how I feel inside each of these. You should know that I’m 5’4″, between size 4-6, 34D bust, and stick to one-pieces. I generally want to be comfortable, I err on the side of pretty modest (that’s when I feel most confident and therefore sexiest – I’m a former Mormon ’90s teen, lol). So these won’t be the first choice for all bodies (and some of them aren’t the best on me either, and I’ll explain why), but if you want a one-piece with support, here are some options in a few different budgets. And no “gifting” or trades were involved here. “New To Me” Favorites New to me, but super impressed. Wearing a size 6 (if you are smaller in the chest size down). Here’s what you need to know: FABRIC: The fabric is soft and thick (it’s J. Crew’s new “Sculpt Fabric,” which has some compression but not too much). BUST SUPPORT: 6/10. Not bad at all, good enough in a lot of ways (my standards are low TBH). There is a light shelf that attempts real support, but you aren’t going to want to run around (but lifts a bit for sure). As you can see, they are more smooshed together, which isn’t my favorite shape (see other leopard below). CHEEKINESS: It’s cheeky enough and medium cut. You can see it slightly cuts in on the hip. STRAPS: I love the shape of the back straps and thought it was really flattering. The straps are wide which I thought I liked, but once I compared it with its thinner strapped sister, I realize that with big boobs maybe thinner is actually better on me. PATTERN: The pattern is really busy (not see-through and can hide lumps and bumps) LINING: The lining kinda peeks out as you can see on my left cheek, lol. FINAL THOUGHTS: Very comfortable, soft, easy to wear, and I felt pretty confident in it (but I’m keeping the other leopard suit instead). A solid black suit that I ended up keeping (I have no black suits right now). I still have notes, but I really really, really liked it. I’m wearing a 6 and almost sized down but wasn’t big enough in the boobs. Good to knows: FABRIC: Soft compression fabric (same J. Crew “Sculpt Fabric”) that feels really good and does the job while still being comfortable. BUST SUPPORT: 6/10. There is a shelf with a seam that adds some support, enough for walking/lying and feeling secure, but def not your river rafting suit (Tell me you are an Oregonian without telling me you are an Oregonian). CUT/SHAPE: The cut is flattering – the height of the leg, the location of the straps, the little dip in the front – while it looks basic, it’s thoughtfully designed. CHEEKINESS: Great cut in the butt. The fabric holds in place well enough, but if it pops up (because it will), it doesn’t cut in. STRAPS: I love the back – felt that it was flattering and loved the adjustable straps. FINAL THOUGHTS: I felt really good in this, sexy enough for night time hot tubs with Brian, but still good to daytime with families. A classic suit in a really pretty color. Size 6 (I tried on a four and too tight, cut in and not enough boob space, so if you are in between sizes, size up). FABRIC: Another J. Crew “Sculpt Fabric” – soft and the color is so pretty. I could see my lumps and bumps underneath, which is fine at night, but not what I prefer during the day. BUST SUPPORT: 8/10. Pretty good! I liked the scoop neck on me, and it gave cleavage, but in a way I’m feel comfortable about. CUT/SHAPE: The shape is pretty great; there is some stitching in the back that creates a nice hourglass shape. It does however, cut in at the hip, which I don’t love. CHEEKINESS: Mid-coverage. Higher cut on the thighs for sure. FINAL THOUGHTS: I passed on this one for me, but it’s a really solid suit. While this suit isn’t very “me” (feels too preppy for me), I thought it was flattering and great for a coastal/Hamptons vibe. I’m wearing a size 6, which fit as well as it could: FABRIC: It looks expensive (and it is) – great for fancier pool parties. BUST SUPPORT: 4/10. While it has some, the V flattens more than lifts. I think better for those C cups and under, IMHO. I like cleavage, but not the big, flat kind of line that this gave me (thus passing on it). CUT/SHAPE: The scoop back is so pretty! I thought the back was so flattering. CHEEKINESS: Pretty cheeky, without being too high. I really like the white trim on the suit – a detail without garnering too much attention. PATTERN: The color blocking is super flattering. The dark navy is slimming, then the pops of white delight your eye and keep you looking tanner next to it. FINAL THOUGHTS: Better if you have smaller boobs, otherwise pretty great for a modest suit that doesn’t scream “mom”. Highly Rated Affordable Amazon Dupes As a total swimsuit snob, I tried hard this time to order some that were truly affordable to try – maybe my snobbery is off base and there are some really supportive swimsuits for $35?? Well, no and maybe. After trying on many, I found a few worth discussing. I ordered medium, which was a mistake (I also have a short torso), so in all of these, I would size down if you are in between sizes. These are solid, affordable options for sure, with a lot more cheek coverage. They don’t have compression fabrics and are thinner, so they don’t conceal as much, but I was surprised by how much I liked the tops of a few of these, so I’m showing you the 3 out of 10 that I tried (some were god-awful). This floral number (size M) is for those who want more coverage in the butt, and a busy overall pattern. What you need to know: BUST SUPPORT: 5/10. Not the worst, for sure (they say “supportive” on the site, and I was like “I’ll be the judge of that”). It has a shelf and you won’t fall out, but it doesn’t lift or shape like others. CUT/SHAPE: I liked the top – felt like I could throw on some shorts and cruise around on a bike. No compression, sculpting, or shaping (the things you pay $$ for with the higher-priced suits). CHEEKINESS: Full cheek coverage. STRAPS: Adjustable straps – always a plus. PATTERN: The busy pattern makes it so you can’t see underneath lumps and bumps, if that’s your preference. The colors are pretty and modern (i.e., some of the Amazon patterns are SOOOOO questionable). FINAL THOUGHTS: I think this is a great affordable suit that I personally would wear cute swim shorts with at, say, the local pool or public splash pad. It’s fun, family-friendly, and affordable. I was very curious about this Andie Swim dupe, and it measured up exactly how I thought it would (wearing a Medium and should have sized down): BUST SUPPORT: 6/10. Good enough for most things because even though it’s not going to lift and shape, you get enough coverage to never worry about falling out. There is a shelf inside that does the job just fine. CUT/SHAPE: The top and snaps are pretty cute. CHEEKINESS: Full coverage. Stays put because, well, it’s full coverage. STRAPS: The straps feel casual and cool. FINAL THOUGHTS: While the OG Andie is far superior, this felt like a solid dupe. I’m a small and should have ordered a small (sizing on the internet is just so weird!). I liked the color, and while I didn’t feel sexy at all in this, it’s a great “add shorts and run around” kind of suit that still feels youthful while being solidly modest. Ok, this one, FULL, full coverage, was actually really cute! Great for trips with in-laws if you know what I mean. I wore a medium and should have sized down to a small (doesn’t run big but it’s not tight). BUST SUPPORT: Fine, like a 5/10 (zero is no support where boobs are just flying blind inside). But the coverage makes you feel supported in a way, but no lifting. CUT/SHAPE: There is rouging in the stomach area, which I have mixed feelings about – sometimes it gives maternity, and I’d rather a suit help compress instead. Also, Too much with the sleeves, IMHO. CHEEKINESS: Full butt coverage. PATTERN: The pattern is bold. I liked it more with a sarong as shown (just too much coverage on the butt for me). FINAL THOUGHTS: Sure, it gives “mom,” but it’s also cute and fun and family resort appropriate. The sleeves are cute and fun, and the back has some style. If you are in between sizes like me, size down for sure. This Amazon suit was highly rated, so I ordered it in a few patterns/colorways. I liked this one the most because of the colorway (lighter/pattern on top). I didn’t keep but I did feel it was good enough to talk about. BUST SUPPORT: Pretty good! The back strap helps keep the ladies up there, and you aren’t going to fall out. The shape of the front flattens boobs more than I’d like rather than lifting. CUT/SHAPE: Good if you want to feel like you are wearing a two piece without actually wearing a two piece (the cut out in the midsection. And also great if you want attention up above, but less so on the bottom. It felt pretty booby :) CHEEKINESS: Full, but I still thought it was flattering from the back since it was black on the bottom and lighter on the top. PATTERN: Comes in a ton of patterns and colors. FINAL THOUGHTS: All in all, more solid, comfortable, and flattering than so many of the other affordable Amazon suits I tried on. Not very me, but a good, affordable dupe. Another Amazon number with a cute top and a lot of coverage. I have mixed feelings. FABRIC: It is double layered, but as you can see, it still shows more underneath than I would like (this is a deal breaker for me as I’m stupidly self-conscious about that). BUST SUPPORT: Fine! Like a 6/10. You aren’t going to fall out, but it’s not lifting and supporting necessarily. There is a shelf for sure, so you aren’t flying blind. CUT/SHAPE: The scoop/square neck with the snaps is cute and flattering. CHEEKINESS: Full coverage STRAPS: I like where the straps hit. FINAL THOUGHTS: It has rouging on the stomach, which isn’t my favorite, but great if you want more room. My #1 Go-To This is my #1 because it’s so flattering, comfortable, and versatile. It is my perfect “family, active, snorkeling, river hiking, then to lunch” suit. I literally where it most days on our family adventure vacations or when with other families. They have it in other types of fabric (ribbed and gingham), which I don’t love as much, so I stick to the classics (and just ordered the navy, too). I wish it came in a black and white stripe in the same fabric (hint, hint, Andie, folk). I’m wearing a small, classic torso. FABRIC: It has two light compression layers, so it is flattering without being too compressing (like some below). It is thick enough to hide lumps and bumps but not so thick to be uncomfortable or hot. BUST SUPPORT: Is an 8/10 in boob support (which is enough, without being uncomfortable). You are so supported and won’t ever fall out (it’s what I wear snorkeling or running around at a splash pad). It lifts and doesn’t smoosh or flatten (creates a nice rounder shape, imho). CUT/SHAPE: It doesn’t flatten, but it does conceal enough in a comfortable way. Two of my friends with very different body shapes (smaller on top and hippier) also have it and love it. Seems to be a universally great casual suit that I think still looks stylish. CHEEKINESS: It’s the perfect level of cheeky and stays in place. FINAL THOUGHTS: It reads more like a tank top if you throw on shorts (thus perfect at a beach or poolside restaurant). You can button it up and down (can still be sexy). I have worn it for three years (one broke a snap, and I bought it again). 10/10. Love this suit. Oh, and the navy color is currently 25% off!! The Most Flattering And Supportive Well, you simply can’t beat TA3 for flattery, support, and shape – made for curvier ladies to feel hot. I’m obsessed with these suits and feel so good in them (while sometimes wishing the colors weren’t so bright – they have black in a lot of the shapes, don’t worry). These are corseted suits, designed to be extremely flattering, tailored, and give you an hourglass shape while lifting and flattening. They are expensive for a reason, but my goodness, they are a game changer. FABRIC: Super compression fabric – great for being flattering, and you can see NO bumps or lumps – just a smooth flat tummy. But these are not comfortable for all-day wear (like at all). And remember, if you cinch somewhere, it often comes out in other places, so you might find yourself adjusting more than other suits. BUST SUPPORT: 10/10. You are lifted and sculpted and supported. It’s so awesome. CUT/SHAPE: Undeniably flattering, compared to most suits. Designed to give you an hourglass shape. However, not as great for smaller boobs or more lanky ladies – two of my less curvy friends tried mine on and while they looked good in them, they simply didn’t need what this suit specializes in. We all agreed that while good, if you don’t need support or want stomach flattening, this suit might not be for you. CHEEKINESS: They have a lot of different cuts, but this one is mid-cheek (I can not do a thong YET despite Brian begging me) FINAL THOUGHTS: This one doesn’t have the corsetted tie back, instead this mesh number (it’s newer, which I LOVE. I would buy this suit in many colors and patterns – it’s expensive and you can’t wear it all day, but as far as feeling great in a suit, this is it for me. A decidedly “non-friends and family” suit, for me at least, y’all. This suit is low cut, high cut and demands attention (and you have medium to big boobs, you’ll get it). It’s what I pull out on vacation with Brian, and more so at night, but I feel GREAT in it. I’ve had it for three years and still pull it out when I need a boost (mentally and physically). I’m desperate for a collaboration with them to create more patterns, so I’m putting it out there in case they are reading. FABRIC: The TA3 technology creates that hourglass shape while compressing and smoothing underneath. It’s magical, truly. It boosts where I wanted boosting and flattens where I want flattening. BUST SUPPORT: 10/10. Yes, it’s very low cut, but it has a shelf and lifts and shapes – again, magical. My boobs look and feel fantastic in this suit despite being 45 years old (they aren’t that perky, y’all). They also strangely aren’t smooshed together – it’s designed to give enough room to create a really pretty rounder shape, instead of just flattening them down or smooshing them together. CUT/SHAPE: High cut – be prepared to get a wax – this suit is super super high cut (which is why I wear it more at night, lol). The back corset will create back cleavage, at least it does on me – you just have to be ok with it. CHEEKINESS: Pretty darn minimal, and while it stays in place OK, it’s definitely not for the faint of heart/cheek. STRAPS: Adjustable straps – great! COLOR: The color is so fun – electric blue, which demands attention, but they have other colors, too. FINAL THOUGHTS: If you want sexy and supportive, this could be for you. Like, if I had to go on Love Island and be in a suit, this is what I would choose (what a sentence). I LOVED this suit (and so glad I tried it on – I was very doubtful it would look great on me). I was so happy to find something new (outside of the red Andie and the TA3s) that felt both daytime and sexy. Wearing a size 6, which fit great. FABRIC: The fabric is soft and sculpt-y (some compression but you can wear all day – V. comfortable). BUST SUPPORT: 7/10, but I felt GREAT in it. I’m not going to go river rafting in it, but they are lifted, and I felt properly supported. Doesn’t flatten or squish together, just allows for boobs to be supported yet full. CUT/SHAPE: Thigh cut – perfect. Not too high (like the blue TA3 that is extreme) but flattering. Remember, the higher the cut, the longer the leg, if you are into that. CHEEKINESS: PERFECT, i.e., the amount that I like. Enough that you can see some bum, but not a thong. STRAPS: V neck and little straps are so flattering. PATTERN: The leopard pattern is busy, fun, stylish, and feels on-trend. FINAL THOUGHTS: I really, really loved this suit and am so happy to add it to my repertoire. 9/10 Hopefully, this helps you make some decisions with more confidence. It’s hard out there, but my suggestion is to pick yourself up some self-tanning lotion (I love Loving Tan, Coco and Eve and St. Tropez – don’t forget to use the mitt!), and save for one good suit, versus trying out suits that don’t make you feel 100% great. While at 45, I’ll likely never be that girl who struts around the pool in front of people I know with full confidence (which is so dumb), but a good suit has made a huge difference in my summer pool confidence. Hoping to not pass down my body dysmorphia to my daughter, but that’s another story for another day (and she lives in the same messed-up world full of outrageously high expectations for women, so we’ll just do our best, right?). It’s all about highlighting what you love about your body while finding silhouettes, fabrics, and cuts that make you feel your best. May we all just do the best we can, right?
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Last week, I went on a hike with a friend who was lamenting about trying to find good summer office clothes, or even just some good summer office outfit ideas. She works in a creative field, so it's less blazers and slacks and more fun but modest, and yet it's still been a struggle. Clearly, dressing a bit more conservatively is required in most workplaces, but also sweating to death is not what anyone wants. So I thought maybe some of you might also be struggling as well, since more jobs are requiring in-office attendance, and I could offer my online window shopping services. I created 20 outfit combos for both more formal workplaces and more casual workplaces. And don't worry, I ran these all by my best friend, who has primarily worked in non-casual offices, and I got her stamp of approval. We spend A LOT of time working, and there's no reason that you can't look forward to dressing for the office. The "Professional" Looks Starting strong with a very affordable Old Navy short-suit combo paired with an airy white blouse from Everlane. The light oatmeal color is so pretty and summery while still looking professional. The shorts have a 5" inseam, so they are on the longer side depending on how long your legs are:) While Emily didn't try on this exact set, she did do an Old Navy try-on last year with similar pieces and loved them. What's also great about the top is that it's interesting and chic AND modest enough to wear without the blazer. Then for the combo on the right, I'm pretty in love with that short-sleeved vest top. It's so refined yet cool! Gives a suit look, but much better for hot weather. It also comes in black. Then I wanted to pair it with a light-colored colored pant and these were extra perfect because of the subtle pinstripe that complements the white top. Throw a cute little pump heel on, and you are so set. Both of these combos are each under $200 total. I love a neutral look as much as the next person, but a little color and pattern never hurt anyone...especially in the summer! Let's start with the combo to our left. When I saw that belted green gingham blazer, I knew I had to build an outfit around it (FYI it's under $80). It's so fun but not "too wild" and looks just as good open, which is why I included a fitted tank. I chose a more cropped tank because those navy pants are stretchy and super high waisted, so tucking in a long top probably isn't going to look the best. I just think this is fun, but modern and gives "cool powerhouse". That blazer would also be so cute with jeans and flats. Now, for a more loose-fitted look, I equally love both of the pieces in the look on the right. The top is just edgy enough with the double belts and modest enough with the capped sleeves. No jacket needed with this one. Oh, and how great are those blue and white striped pants? Fun, breezy, and office-approved. Ok, so this little short-sleeved blazer is the most expensive piece in this post, but it's also MAJORLY discounted from its original price. Plus, it's so good that I was practically forced (by my heart) to include it. And while you could easily pair it was a cute pair of trousers or jeans, I love the idea of mixing it with this airy midi skirt. It's elevated, cool, and a little unexpected. One of my favorite of these summer office outfit ideas :) These two lean the most casual of the professional looks, but still feel dressier to me, so here goes! First off, THOSE RED STRIPE PANTS. I'm obsessed. So chic, so comfy, and if you wanted the whole set, it does have a matching blazer. But if you want to keep the costs down, I love this cool, boxy button-up to pair with it. You will be the coolest-dressed person in your office for sure. You could pair this look with either a heel, a pretty sandal, or a sleek sneaker. It all depends on your office's dress code. Then, for the look on the right, I really liked the mix of brown tones with a pop of blue to add some more excitement. Those trousers have a crazy high rating and are currently on sale for $28 (originally $40). I really love that jacket, and while summer is hot, the mornings can be chilly, so why not have a cute jacket on the way in:) Onto our casual options! The "Casual" Looks Let me first say that if you haven't checked out the Loft in a minute, may I suggest you take a peek, as both of the trousers above are from there. Cute, right!? They each have a little something fun about them. Caitlin told us that Loft was having an "Abercrombie-like" renaissance, and I have to agree. For the look on the left, I love the seam down the front of the legs. Just adds a simple pop. Plus, the color is beautiful, and paired with the cool, loose, denim-like striped top, it's a slam dunk. Then, for the look on the right, the pants are really the showstoppers with those pockets, so a simple tee is a great pairing. But what is clearly special about this tee is the side ruching. Such a little detail that makes the whole piece. Ok, so most of the outfits going forward, I think are also just great summer outfits. Wear them to the office, wear them to brunch, or wherever else you fancy. For the outfit on the left, that wildly cute top is under $20. Yes, you read that right. It hugs all the right spots, while not being too revealing, and giving that wonderful loose fit around the waist. The jeans are also on a truly great sale ($25!!) and have such a fun high-waisted, wide-leg cut. An easy and non-boring outfit. Now, the look on the right screams "Emily Henderson". That blouse is under $50 and so pretty — the color, the detailing, the cut. Then those are Em's favorite barrel jeans that aren't too "barrel-y". The pockets and the little dart above the knees make them look so cool. Let's layer a bit, shall we? First off, I know these lightweight cargo pants might not be everyone's cup of tea, but if you are looking to step outside your normal style a little, I think they are so great...and look extremely comfortable. Then, for a slightly more elevated tank, I really love this wine colored, cinched option. Flattering and modest. But if you want a little extra pattern and fun (or if you have a chilly office), I love this cropped striped button-up! Layer it over or wear it by itself, you have options. Oh, you knew I was going to include some striped tees. It's EHD law. For the look on the left, it's all in the details. That side-tie tank is so fun yet feels classic. Those jeans (from my go-to denim retailer, Everlane) are pretty standard until you get to that freaking cool seam at the calf. Throw on that boxy green Oxford, opened as a little jacket for a little warmth in the AC, and baby, you have a stylish little look. But if you want to lean more into that coastal, nautical style, then the combo on the right could be for you. A truly classic striped tee, CUTE long white shorts, and a little cardigan. What's not to love? This is where I got a little wild:) So not sure what's come over me, but I am extremely into the look on the left. I used to dabble more into leopard years ago, but not until recently have I felt the urge to dip my toe back in. Emily and photographer Kaitlin have leopard denim, and they look so cool in them. So when I saw these ultra-soft jeans from Gap, I thought maybe it's my time. But for a work outfit, I do think that pairing these pants with a more tailored top is a great contrast that elevates the whole look. This light pink vest is such a fun pop of color and makes me want this whole outfit even more. And since playfulness is the essence of these two looks, I really loved the idea of this vacation-inspired look on the right (that you could also very much wear on a summer vacation). Those striped shorts are amazing and a little fitted, which is great to pair with that slightly oversized fruit shirt. I mean, if you've been wanting to try out the fruit fashion trend, there isn't a better time than now:) The Dresses Since dresses are less of a combo situation, I thought I'd just add a few at the end. First up is that beautiful reddish coral dress from Sezane. You could wear it for almost any occasion, and it would be perfect. That side tie is so chic. It comes in other colors, too. Then the linen maxi with those sweet puff sleeves is also extremely versatile. Cute, modest, flattering, and looks so comfortable. It also comes in other colors and patterns. Quince really does have beautiful clothes for great prices, and the dress on the left is a perfect example of that. It's under $70, comes in a ton of colors, and the cut would look amazing on anyone. Lastly, the sleeveless dress on the right is new from Madewell, and I love it. Again, great for summer because it's sleeveless and breezy. The colors are chic, and the pattern makes it interesting. Big fan and would look perfect with a jean jacket:) I truly hope these were helpful summer office outfit ideas, as we are officially in summer. That 90 weather is here but that doesn't mean we have to suffer in office clothes we don't love. I also think so many of these pieces can easily mix and match with each other so have fun if you are on the hunt. Love you, mean it.
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Last Friday, I went to the mall (Pioneer Square to be specific) with the goal of finding some affordable summer outfits and play clothes, but instead, I basically tried on the entire store to find some things that I liked across a few categories (summer office clothes, too). I don't take pics of what doesn't work (a waste of time and would likely include some self-body shaming that is bad for everyone involved), so what you see here today is what I really really like and think passes a lot of tests. Now to remember, I'm more apple shaped (bigger boobs, smaller hips/legs) and right now I'm around a size 4 so I'll indicate the size I'm wearing because sizes at stores right now are WILD and nothing is consistent across the board making it really hard to buy sight unseen. A solid summer chore jacket - lightweight denim, huge pockets, easy fit to layer over. LOVED IT. But we are all here for the pants. I tried on every single wide-leg linen pant they had, and this is the only one that I felt like had a drape that didn't read as pajamas. The cream and grey stripe is flattering and could be worn with flip flops or elevated a bit (but not too much). I want to wear these all summer when I don't have self-tanner on my legs (which is never, LOL - this is my new at-home favorite and develops in TWO HOURS). I don't want to hate on loose linen pants, but often I just feel a bit schlubby in them out of the house - not these!! How cute is this set???? So great for park hangs, over a bathing suit, mall shopping - anywhere where you want to be cool and casual but not look boring. These have a GREAT fit for me with a nice boxy top with a rounded shirt hem (i.e., not straight across), and the shorts don't hug, cut in, or gather in weird places. I wouldn't typically wear this set with those Nisolo Mules (still a favorite pair for almost any occasion where I want to be comfortable with a heel for hours), but with flip flops, sneakers or even cute wedges, this yellow and white stripe allows me to enjoy this summer yellow trend without investing too much financially. Affordable summer outfit, check! This is a fantastic summer suit if I had an office job. It's linen and looks really high-end, but is so affordable! My lifestyle does not support me having a white suit set (although if I were headed to New York for work meetings, I would totally buy this). The blouse is easy and lightweight (not a total slam dunk, but cute enough). Another one, but make it a skort! And cream (which I can do a bit better than bright white). I loved the cut of the jacket - strong shoulders that drape really well. The skort is pretty dang cute - skirt in the front, shorts in the back. And that ribbed tank top is pretty great - for $9.99, it comes in a few colors. Great to layer, not too see-through, or did it show my bits and bobs. I'm wearing a medium but would size down if I wanted it more fitted (it was loose as a medium). Proof of skort :) Likely my favorite of the work looks - these navy blue shorts are so cute and pairing them with the crisp white blazer felt pretty "me". The shorts are formal enough that I think you could totally wear them to work (or anywhere, really). The linen blouse has cute ruffled sleeves and isn't like doing anything new in this world, but if you need more airy white linen blouses, this one is great and affordable. Listen, I'm not a huge white denim wearer year-round or in the summer, but this set is SO CUTE. I bought the top enthusiastically because I have it in denim (wearing it right now actually) and it's a solid shacket. In cream with the button and pocket detail is solid (and it's lightweight, not a super thick heavy denim). The jeans were long on me and high-waisted - so I didn't get them, but they were great if you like straight-legged high-waisted denim! Oh! Here is the white denim shirt as a shacket with these awesome pull-on linen shorts. Again, I tried on many linen shorts and these were my fave by far. Cute, affordable, flare out a little bit (no hugging or cutting in at the waist). I also really liked these shorts with the tie at the top. I think these pair best with a tank top tucked in, which I rarely do, so they aren't for me, but my team agreed they were really good if you are into that look. The last two things, which admittedly don't make the best outfit, but individually, the pieces are great. Baggier jean shorts with a drawstring/elastic waist (so comfy) that flair out a bit. Solid summer play shorts. Then the linen shirt is SO GOOD. Easy to wear, so breathable, forgiving/flattering stripe pattern, dress her up or down = solid summer shirt. Where should I go next for affordable summer outfits and clothes????? I tried Mango (and failed) but haven't been to Old Navy in a bit...Just say the word... Oh, and if any of these are sold out online, I would absolutely check your local H&M if you have one. And in case you missed some of our other summer fashion posts check these out: 30 CUTE Pull-On Shorts For Our Most Comfortable Spring/Summer Yet The 4 Active But CUTE Swimsuits I Bought To Play With My Kids On Spring Break (+ Our Favorite Past Swimsuit Posts) 10 “Emily Henderson-Approved” Spring Blouses
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There was a time in my life – we’ll call it the business casual era – when I owned thirteen blazers but not a single pair of pants I actually liked. I had work blazers (essential), dinner blazers (aspirational), date blazers (optimistic), and the emergency funeral blazer (because one must always remain prepared for stylish grief, I guess). I had one blazer that only worked with a single top, and one top that only worked with a specific bra, which had to be hand-washed, which meant that outfit was basically cursed. My closet wasn’t just a clothing repository: it was a museum of my life choices. Party dresses I rarely wore to parties, jeans too uncomfortable to sit down in (a minor detail), a pair of boots I adored even though they made me walk like a marionette, and an alarming number of clothes I’d purchased for a version of myself that had only rarely shown up to claim them. I bought clothes the way some people buy self-help books: aspirationally, and in a panic. My closet was bursting, but my daily pronouncement remained: I have nothing to wear. It took an embarrassingly long time (and probably a few too many existential crises in front of an open wardrobe) to understand the real issue. My problem wasn’t a totally catastrophic lack of taste (though I’m sure some of you might offer a counterpoint) – the problem was that I wanted to outfit each aspect of my personality. Put simply: I was picking pieces for too many different versions of myself. It wasn’t just that I didn’t like my options. I had built uniforms for disparate lives – I had outfits for crust punk basement shows and for summer on the Cape; for bougie branded parties and for the local DSA meeting; for ice skating competitions and for blending in at the recording studio when my boss told me to throw out any other woman’s résumé, as they likely only wanted to sleep with the band. (Being a woman is super fun, right?!) But it wasn’t just that I was playing dress up. I was, as it turned out, costuming (and not in the fun, let’s go to a masquerade ball kind of way). No – this was the insidious, slow-creep kind of costuming where you wake up one morning, stare into the abyss of your closet, and realize that every single garment was acquired as a uniform for a specific performance – like it’s for someone else, or some version of you that isn’t the one currently staring back. The moment that finally cracked me wasn’t a high-stakes occasion. It was a Friday night, and I was trying to find something, anything, to wear for dinner with my best friends – friends who have known me forever; who neither require, nor expect, a polished version of me. And still, I was stuck. Staring into my closet, I was confronted by a veritable sea of options, and somehow, none of them felt right for a night of shared appetizers and gossip with this group of friends. The thought struck me: I don’t know how to be myself here. I had attire for dates, for international flights, for funerals (see: emergency blazer, above). But for pasta, or errands, or love/hate-watching And Just Like That? Nothing. Now, let’s be clear: it wasn’t that my clothes were languishing with tags on. They weren’t monuments to my aspirational shopping. Au contraire: these pieces were operational. They weren’t just for imagined futures – they were my daily-wear costumes for a very real, very scheduled life. I had outfits for tour buses, for awkward backstage photos, for investor pitches where I tried to look like I understood spreadsheets. Outfits for dive bars (a different kind of pitch), for brand dinners (smile, nod, don’t spill), for handing over a P&L statement with a brave face. Each look had a function, and each function came with a slightly different me that needed to be appropriately outfitted. The problem wasn’t that the clothes weren’t useful. The problem was that I had compartmentalized myself into so many different women that I could no longer find any discernible overlap. My closets were an archive of who I’d been in specific, calendared moments, but offered zero guidance for who I was when the calendar was blissfully, terrifyingly empty. (I’m sure you can guess what happened next.) Then the world hit pause, and my meticulously curated calendar went with it. No shows, no shoots, no strategy dinners, no meetings that could have been emails. Just me, my increasingly judgmental closet, and a rotating cast of sweatpants. For a while, I convinced myself it was temporary. That at any moment, I might be called to dress for something, anything. (And at one point, I was – a Zoom wedding. I watched as their outdoor ceremony was crashed by an NYPD police boat.) But the months unspooled, and the clothes just hung there, smug and silent. So again, I cracked. Not because the clothes were useless, but because they were suddenly, profoundly unemployed. No meetings to navigate, no flights to catch, no crowds to stand in. Just me, at home, day after day, month after month, staring down a closet meticulously built for a schedule of events that no longer existed. I still remember when it happened: I started pulling pieces out of my closet with the manic clarity of a woman bleaching her kitchen grout at 3 AM. (Ask me how I know.) Blazers, blouses, and the chain-covered boots that had complemented my once-purple/green/blue hair – out they went. I didn’t weep. (And I certainly didn’t hold each one and thank it for its service like some organizational guru might suggest, despite my sentimental nature.) I bagged them. I moved on. The truly absurd part wasn’t the volume of what I owned, but how perfectly each item had once fit into a part of my life that no longer needed costuming. After the Great Wardrobe Eviction, I assumed Style™ would reveal itself. That’s the promise, isn’t it? Pare things down and your True Self, fashionably clad, will emerge like Venus from the clamshell. You’ll make a Pinterest board. You’ll define your five essential adjectives. You’ll effortlessly build a capsule wardrobe in soothing shades of camel, oat, and existential despair. Supposedly, your closet becomes a temple. You become the kind of woman who wears linen jumpsuits to run errands and owns exactly three sweaters, all named. I didn’t believe all of it, but I wanted to believe some of it. Yet nothing arrived. No style epiphany, no sartorial lightning bolt. Just a significantly emptier wardrobe and the creeping, deeply unsettling realization that I had absolutely no clue what I actually felt comfortable in. I knew what had worked for various roles, but me, unscripted? Blank canvas. I didn’t necessarily want a capsule wardrobe, with all its implied monastic chic. I just wanted to get dressed and feel like myself. Instead, I felt like an actor waiting for a casting director to hand me a new character. I’d cut the noise, but the signal, it turned out, had packed its bags and left with the blazers. It was just…quiet. (And not the good, meditative, Gwyneth-on-a-silent-retreat way. More the bleak, is this all there is? kind of quiet.) Eventually, I gave up on “finding a look” – which always sounds like you’re searching for a fugitive – and started looking for a standard. If I couldn’t dress for a specific context, maybe I could dress for some core values. Rules were made (because when in doubt, make rules). Natural fibers, exclusively, because a 2024 trip to pristine Antarctica had instilled in me a deep, lingering climate guilt. Fewer things, but better things – things that might actually survive more than three dates with my laundromat’s 8-load machine. No more shoes I couldn’t walk a respectable city mile in, no more patterns that were impossible to match, no more tops that were held hostage by that one specific bra. What came next wasn’t some cinematic reveal: it was just Tuesday. No makeover montage, no triumphant strut. I just got dressed. Badly, at first. And then slightly less badly. Some days, I looked goofy. Other days I looked like myself, or at least someone I’d be friends with. It’s a weird, slow, deeply unglamorous process, this excavation of what you wear when you’re not specifically anywhere – no event, no deliverables, no audience. Just Tuesday. Just you. It turns out, when you’ve spent a lifetime building wardrobes for very distinct, very real contexts – studios, offices, cities, farms – you can accidentally skip the fundamental step of figuring out what you throw on to buy milk. Or to go to dinner. Or, crucially, to sit alone on your own couch and feel like yourself. There’s a very fine, often line between personal style and collective bargaining with your self-esteem. For me, it wasn’t about insecurity – not really. I think it was more about range – I was so worried about dressing to fit in that I somehow forgot to ask what I’d wear if no one else was there. I think that if you really want to know who someone is, don’t look at what they wear – ask what they keep and never don, just in case. I kept a lot. I did wear almost all of it, at some point. But when I was finally alone, I realized I didn’t know what any of it meant. Not about the world, but about me. These days, when I get dressed, the outfit isn’t the answer. It’s the question. And at least now, I have a much better idea of who I’m asking. How To Start So, your closet? Does it feel less like a curated collection and more like a holding pen for a witness protection program of various past selves? Are you staring at a bewildering array of “stuff” and thinking, Surely, one of these things must feel like…me? And have you, like me, Googled for help only to be met with blindingly obvious advice that makes you want to scream into the nearest sensible scarf? (Wow: Buy what makes you feel good? Oh man! Insightful! What wise chestnut is next? Avoid hitting yourself on the head with a hammer?) I’ve been there. It sucks. Here’s what I’ve found helpful when it comes to clearing the clutter and making room for Style™, whenever it decides to show up (any day now, I’d hope). Pare Down Donate: I donate my basics to Goodwill. You can also keep an eye out for those in your community who are in direct need of aid – Jess and I pooled our donations and were able to outfit a Pasadena teacher who’d lost everything in the Eaton Fire. (Shoutout to Sara Tramp for organizing!) Trade: Got stuff that’s seen better days? (Like, way better days?) Anything stained, ripped, or hole-y? Don’t throw it in the trash – I swear by Suay’s $20 textile bags, whose cost can be reapplied to any Suay product. (I love this business. Like, they’ll deal with all my icky textile crap, and I can get a stellar lumbar pillow out of the deal?) Sell: Okay, I admit I clung to some of my “splurgier” uniforms – I mean, pieces. Wedding guest dresses I swore I’d wear again (I didn’t), trousers that promised a new, leaner me (they lied), matching sets that looked great on the hanger (the betrayal!!!). I’ve had a ton of luck offloading these pieces on Poshmark, though! I initially balked at the time commitment, but then I made $200 back on a dress I’d only worn once. It was an incredible return for 5 minutes of my time. (There are alternatives here, but this is the only one I’ve vetted.) Consign: If the thought of photographing another blouse makes you want to lie down, look for local consignment shops. (If you’re in LA, The Left Bank is a solid bet.) Just let someone else do the work and collect a (smaller) check. Worth it. (If you’re a size 12 or above, your clothes are always in demand at consignment stores, FYI.) Index (Or Indyx) As it turns out, I suffer from a peculiar affliction: I cannot, for the life of me, conjure images in my mind. When people talk about their “mind’s eye” or “imagining the audience in their underwear” – well, I always thought that was a literary device. Metaphorical. Implied, not literal. A charming turn of phrase! It was only recently I learned that most people can, quite literally, see things in their heads. (Given a natural inclination towards distraction, perhaps this is a mercy. I would likely spend my days conjuring pastries.) But this posed a silent, daily problem for my wardrobe. I knew the facts: I owned black linen pants. There were tank tops, somewhere, in that drawer. My favorite dress was red, with zodiac signs. But I couldn’t see them. Couldn’t picture combinations. Getting dressed was a daily archaeological dig involving pulling everything out and sighing dramatically. Enter: Indyx. (Link Up readers, you may be familiar.) Cataloging my clothes felt absurd at first, but it was – and I’m not being overdramatic – transformative. I can actually scroll through my clothes like an ultra-specific personal shopping app. I can play mix-and-match before creating Mount Laundry on my floor. I can see what I actually wear (and, more importantly, what I consistently ignore). It’s a process, not a miracle cure. You could do the same thing with a photo album on your phone, but Indyx is prettier. Live Out of A Carry-On This one has been the most helpful, I think. I’ve spent 4 of the last 5 months living out of a carry-on suitcase. I’m not even suggesting that you have to travel to do this – you could also try it at home! – but there’s something liberating about pulling only what fits in a carry-on suitcase and learning how to mix-and-match from a refined, edited collection of only essentials. Suddenly, faced with a severely limited selection, I was forced to actually style things. That button-up? Can I tie it? Can I tuck it differently? That dress? Can it be a skirt? Can it be layered? It stripped away the paralysis of too many options and forced creativity. It also gave me a clear metric for success: when I felt genuinely bummed out that something was in the laundry hamper because I wanted to wear it again, I knew I’d found a winner. These were the pieces that felt like me, even in miniature form. And Rent, For Some Variety PRAISE BE TO THE NUULY FOUNDERS. I’m still on the hunt for my Style™ – it feels like a mythical creature, sometimes – and opening my subscription is my low-stakes safari. Six pieces a month means I can try cuts, colors, and general aesthetics I wouldn’t commit to buying (or, honestly, even trying on in person). It’s a lifesaver during the brutal LA “winter” (read: jacket season) and the holiday party circuit (no more staring mournfully at unworn sequin dresses!). It’s experimentation without the commitment – perfect for this phase of life, while i figure out who I am. (I guess I’m just starting that mid-life crisis a few years early, huh?) What say you? Any thoughts? Tips? Advice? I can’t be the only woman whose path to self-discovery involved staring blankly into a closet, can I? Has this happened to you? CAN WE TALK ABOUT IT?
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